Today, I’m welcoming to the blog, my friend, Jennifer Lane from The Cancer Bomb. Jennifer is no stranger to pain and fear. She knows first hand what it’s like to walk along-side family members with cancer. Jennifer is joining me today to guide you in learning how to keep your faith in God when everything is falling apart. Because let’s face it, we all have our own unique stories in life and it can be hard to keep trusting God in those beat-you-down kinds of trials.
Take it away, Jennifer!
The harsh reality is, sometimes life feels like one obstacle after another. No matter how much planning or preparation we do, we have no idea what’s going to happen tomorrow.
Just think about some of the obstacles that have occurred during your life.
It’s challenging during times of struggle and uncertainty to trust that there is a bigger plan beyond what we can see and a reason why bad things happen.
But the truth is, tragedy can break you or it can build you.
Amazing people are rarely born out of perfect circumstances. Strong people become that way because they struggled, and they sacrificed, they kept going against the odds, and because they believed in something bigger than the tragedy they encountered.
So, how do you keep your faith in God when everything is falling apart?
You focus every single day on building an unbreakable relationship with Him that will carry you through your darkest times.
Step #1: Talk to Him
Talk to God the same way you talk to your best friend.
Say your prayers, but also tell Him your worries, your struggles, and your fears. Talk to Him about what you want, what you’re confused about, and what you’re hoping for.
Tell Him the things that make you happy, the things that make you sad, and the things that despite the obstacles, just feel like they have fallen into place.
The relationship that you have with God is ultimately where your faith is developed.
The deeper your relationship with Him, the deeper your faith will be. Tell Him everything. The same way you would tell anyone you love; talking to God will help you feel better about the situation.
First, it’s an extremely gratifying way of getting some of the stress you are feeling out of your system. Second, you are nurturing a relationship that will help you get through every single obstacle you will ever face in your life.
Step #2: Let It Go
Easier said than done, I know. The truth is you have no control over most of this.
There are things we can control and there are things we just can’t.
You can do the work (and you should) to make the situation better (For example: if your boss decides to sell the company…you can sharpen your skills and “step up your game” to prove that you’re an asset. Beyond that, there are a ton of factors, that you just can’t control.)
Handle the things that are in your control.
Look seriously at the situation and make a list. Whatever you can’t control, LET IT GO.
I’m not great at letting go either, but when we say “trust in the Lord” this is the time when we have to “put our money where our mouth is.”
Our job is to do the work for the little we can control and put our faith in God when we can’t.
Step #3: Focus on the Miracles
Have you ever found that during your darkest moments some of the things that you didn’t even know you needed just seem to line up?
Three months before my dad was diagnosed with Lung Cancer, I was offered a work from home job.
In the beginning, I was so excited about eliminating my two-hour commute, being more available for my family, working in my pajamas, and switching a load of laundry throughout the day. What I didn’t realize at the time, was how significant this job was going to be for the bigger picture.
That job (because I could literally work from anywhere) allowed me to provide a paycheck for my family and still have the flexibility to become my dad’s full-time caregiver, attend appointments, treatments, and everything else that came up during our journey.
Without God giving me that opportunity, our journey would have been much more stressful from a financial perspective because there is no way I could have worked my old job and helped my dad battle cancer.
Sometimes God gives you exactly what you need when you need it.
Recognizing that helps you build that unbreakable relationship that we are striving for.
Step #4: Trust God’s Timing
He can see the big picture. And his timing is always perfect.
Remember that boy you were totally in love with in high school, before he completely broke your heart? You cried for days and it felt like your entire life was over?
Thank God that didn’t work out. And even though you’re older and wiser now, the struggle is still the same.
Something you prayed for, something you loved, something you hoped would be completely life-changing… just didn’t work out the way you hoped.
Because for whatever reason, it just wasn’t supposed to.
And even if it didn’t feel like that in the moment, it might have been a HUGE blessing in disguise.
Step #5: Believe in The Strength He Has Given You
You were given this obstacle because you are strong enough to handle it.
After my fourth family member was diagnosed with cancer, I didn’t really want to hear that I was strong enough anymore. I was tired, I was stressed, and I needed at least a year-long break before I was ready to fight another battle of this magnitude.
But the truth is, I am strong enough. And, now I am even stronger because of everything that happened during that time.
God knew that I could do this. And he was right.
Have you ever heard an “epic story” of someone becoming strong because everything was going right?
Unfortunately, we become strong because we struggle through when life kicks us around.
And then we get back up, brush ourselves off and keep moving forward.
Jennifer Lane used to have a “normal life,” until cancer exploded into her family. Now she writes at The Cancer Bomb helping families use the FREE Cancer Combat Plan to cut through the stress and overwhelm and get some of the craziness under control. When she’s not helping someone she loves fight this battle, you can find Jennifer camping with her family and re-reading the Harry Potter series. (for the millionth time!)
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